Sky, I hope you are joking about the cameras. As for the rest, in my state there are programs where we can hire and direct our own care through paid programs. I would give up driving in a heart beat if I had reliable help that cared for me and for whom I could care. I hope you maximize what services and meds you can get. Most of the time, in my experience, have a personal care attendent enriches our lives and gives us new access and comfort. Think about not being do danged independent. After all, you are not a yankee.