Hi Summer....oh thank you so much. The not speaking was her choice not mine. The sending her to the program was because when i go to sleep she sneaks out and puts herself at risk, I never sent her away for any reason other than safety issues....I thought the residential would give her some time to focus on finding herself and also for them to evalute her condition. The program tells me I am around too much and to stay away so she misses me more. I did speak to my daughter us this weekend and she said without hesitation "mom no matter how old I am and where we are, I know you love and support me, even if i killed someone". I may have come across wrong on my post....after three weeks of her not speaking to me I was in pretty bad shape....please know though...that was NOT me...that was her, I have no way of contacting her....she can call me once during the week during therapy for 1/2 hour and once on the weekends for 15 minutes, but those are if she wants....I can only be here waiting for it. I have tried counselors, i have tried partial hospitialization (only during school hours)...I just didnt know what else too do, but as far as my love that is one thing she has NEVER been without. I would appreciate your thoughts on how a parent can guide a troubled teen through tough times.