Have you tried responding to your bf's kisses more slowly and passionately? Putting your hands on his to guide him? The best thing to do is to tell your bf what you'd like him to do. It isn't always an easy conversation to bring up (for me anyway, as I fight shame) .... but men are often eager to please women, and are happy to get tips on how please us.

It's hard to say whether or not love is in the equation. Sex doesn't mean love.