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Apr 12, 2012, 03:51 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Just a couple of questions, ok? He says you're "always on his back." Do you tend to get after him alot about stuff? What about? Can you perhaps let up on him, or are these things that you get after him about really serious?
For instance, I've found that when hubby comes home from work, do NOT start on him right when he gets home. Let him sit down, read the paper or do whatever he does when he gets home, eat dinner, etc., and then in the evening have a talk about whatever it is you need him to do.  By then, he's more relaxed & in better humor (usually) and not as likely to go storming off. Perhaps you already do this -- if so, he may be just looking for an excuse to get out of the house. 
It's good to hear you're in counseling.  You've taken the right step even if he doesn't want to be there.  I agree with what "horse" said --- the quality of the home is what counts. If there is constant fighting in the home, THAT is going to affect your son more than if there's a father there or not. Sure, it would be perfect if he had a good father --- but since he doesn't, don't stay just because you want him to HAVE a father. A bad father is going to screw him up worse than no father at all! 
Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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