Back in January when I foolishly moved out of my house to follow another woman, my wife had a bunch of friends over to throw all of my stuff into the garage. My expensive camera "disappeared" in the process but she denied all knowledge or responsibility. A couple weeks ago she finally admitted she knew where it was, she had let a friend take it and had been lying about it the whole time. She agreed to get it back for me.

I'm trying to put this marriage back together, so I'm being very polite about asking for it. Several dates that she said she would have it back to me by have come and gone. I keep asking every day or two, but there's always an excuse like she forgot, she didn't have time, or she didn't happen to go that direction. I asked for it again this morning when she called me to ask for a favor. She had the gall to tell me she was getting mad at me because I keep calling it my camera. It IS mine. I'm the one that wanted it, I researched it, I ordered it, I paid for it with my money from my paycheck, and I'm the only one that ever used it until my wife wanted to borrow it because she decided she liked it better than the one I gave her.

I'm increasingly thinking she's delusional about this whole marriage and reconciliation thing. She seems to think that because I'm the one that had the affair that she did nothing wrong, which is VERY not true. She's on a "you think the whole world revolves around you" kick because I say something is mine. Her exact words this morning were "You call it your camera but you still say you want to work on this marriage?" Ok, I should probably call it our house because that's what the deed says, but we've lived there ten years and she's never paid the first nickel toward a mortgage payment. I'm not even allowed to live there now and I'm still making the payment for her.

So what AM I allowed to call mine? My car and truck and trailer, all fully bought and paid off by me? My library and family room furniture that I personally designed and built? My camera that I researched, purchased, and paid for out of my own paycheck? My underwear? Where does it stop?

Now I'm getting texts from her asking why I have an attitude about something that's bothering her. Replied that I'm getting a little frustrated with her attitude and excuses and the response was "And yet u want me 2 try marriage with you again??!?" Next came "It pretty obvious u being right and having things is more important than me or a marriage." How is her withholding my camera helping the marriage? I just want my stolen property back! It's been gone for over three months, and it's one of the things I do to relax and de-stress, kind of important with the issues I'm having right now.

Mostly venting, but I'd welcome good advice if anyone has any.