I like Perna's answer. :-). Calista, i understand. My mom won't let us call her mom and tried to k*ll us. It hurts. It hurts deeply. I have friends i call mom. I have a Mama Jackie. My higher power is also my parent, but i had to accept that my biological mother is unable to parent. It has nothing to do with me. It's her problem and it is very sad and loney- for her. My life can still be rich and joyful-
without her as it turns out. Hugs to you if that's ok.