Thanks for all replies.
Lots of shoulds and such there.

First of all, there is no expectation of anything coming from allowing them to come into my home and ask me questions they already have the answers to. Second, the stress factor may make me worse off than I was before, even to the point of needing to sell the house and move, due to their being inside.
Third, the driving is an issue they don't even know about, that my MD doesn't want me driving. That would mean they provide a driver that i have to call the day before, wait and hope they show up on time and not too early or late, drop me off at one appt, pick me up in time for the next and not forget about me. It's an impossible scenario... unless I can have floating appts with the doctors, and schedule them only one a day or so many hours apart that I'm useless anyway. THAT would be the ins co answer to my own driver, van etc.
there is NO good solution in any of this.

Those who wish to come assess my home represent the enemy who continues to add to my PTSD, they represent those who caused my PTSD in the first place making my injury far worse than it might have been... they really don't care about me, it's all about money to them. They don't plan on providing anything for me... they only want to appear to be caring when the judge looks over the case.