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Originally Posted by pbutton
This week he proved to me that he understands me well enough to repeat back things that I have told him. He gets it enough to retell my stories (correctly) back to me. Then I can see things with the added benefit of his professional view..
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with T1, I never felt all that well understood. When she'd repeat things back to me, there were always omissions, or inaccuracies, or assumptions, and I had to take the time to correct them by retelling. Then one day it occurred to me (slow on the uptake,I guess) that this could be a technique. I did feel a bit manipulated, but I never called her on it, it's an approach I guess.
T2 never misses a THING, and I think she understands me far better, even if she does hear what I say with her professional ears. I will often find her going, "
now listen to what you are saying" - and drawing out of my own words a pattern, viewpoint, a feeling that I didn't realize.