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Old Apr 12, 2012, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by 2or3things View Post
So on top of feeling so painfully that I miss her and want to be connected, I also feel like I need to work to really, really push her away, mostly so I can stop the pain of missing her, but also because I feel like it makes me a horribly needy jerk.
I most definitely understand this tension. If I had any great advice, I'd try to follow it myself, since I deal with exactly the same thing. I think the impulse to push away is, at its heart, a self-protective one. But it's also one that is ultimately damaging. Maybe talking with your T about the conflict you experience would be a starting point?
Thanks for this!
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