I'm pretty sure the camera is gone for good and you may have to just accept it. So, onto the real stuff...like, do you actually love this woman and want to spend the rest of your life with her? There is no right or wrong answer to the question...but if you don't really love her the way a husband should love his wife, just get a divorce and let everyone get on with rebuilding their lives separately. I'm just not sensing a lot of forgiveness and compromise from either you or your wife. The kids will be fine...you'll all be fine.