I never spelt out what the Horrible Event was. I wonder why not? Something to do with privacy I think. Or perhaps shame.

Anyway, here it is:

One of the group members was persistently cruel to another group member. The facilitators didn't intervene and in the end it was a third group member who called a halt to it.

I assumed the facilitators knew what they were doing and held back for a good reason. (I remember thinking: Why doesn't T stop this?) But T admits that she made a mistake.


T is not directly blaming me for the group's demise. She's telling me how she felt.

I don't yet know why she is telling me this. (Must ask!) But she wouldn't tell me if she didn't think I was ready for it. I'm assuming this is an advanced technique for experienced patients!

Normally I would agree with you, WP. T is not supposed to bring those kinds of feelings to the party. I'm allowed to be angry at my T and I'm allowed to shout at her. And that's not supposed to have any real-world consequences.

ACTUAL DIALOG FROM YESTERDAY'S SESSION:

Me: I've been telling people on the internet that it's OK to be angry at your therapist and that therapists are used to being shouted at.
T: Good!