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Originally Posted by SophiaG
How would i like people to be supportive?
- Believe in me, don't get angry at me, hate me and then give up on me. You're just reflecting how I treat myself when you do this.
- Don't tell me how I should change and that I need to change or else. I am already my biggest critic and it makes it worse when others echo my negative sentiments to myself, doubling my sense of low-self esteem.
- Don't tell me i'm oversenstive, need to grow up, am emotional pollution or need to suck it up. These things make me feel like you don't care about how I feel, and make me feel all alone.
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just out of curiousity.. have you ever talked to those closest to you (the ones you need true support from the most) about what you really need from them?? i know sometimes people aren't open to the conversation.. but it's worth a shot.. it took me years to "train" my mom that sometimes i just need to talk... and she doesn't need to try to fix everything... but just listen...
i think most of us reading this specific post of yours would agree that the type of support you are looking for is what we all are universally hoping to find in one another... sometimes we are inevitably quite sorely disappointed with what we find in humanity.. and other times, we reach out & are left standing completely in awe of true compassion and empathy most eloquently expressed..
while it SUCKS, we should expect and prepare ourselves for disappointment more often than awe... after all we all are imperfect, incredibly human, and totally fallible.. and so are the people we are reaching out to in our times of greatest need...