When I was a college student who had just turned 21, I had very low self esteem and thought no girl would ever want me. I had a male friend who was the opposite of me in thinking that he was God's gift to women. Several times he introduced me to his "interest de jour", and in one case it turned out that she was interested in me! She dropped a few hints that I completely missed because I was sure she wouldn't want me.

In desperation, she called to ask me out, which was unheard of in 1980, on a movie date. I had the good sense to see the light. We have been married 22 years, and have 3 children. The oldest in now in college himself!

At the time, I felt like the luckiest SOB alive, and thought that I would never suffer from low self esteem again. I was wrong about that.

Marrying the "one and only" young creates its own set of problems. However, I believe that it was better to take her then and there rather than wait for the "right time". I have no regrets.