Hi guys...thanks for your replies. I really appreciate it.
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Originally Posted by WikidPissah
yea. I white knuckle and mismanage thru all crisis points because I am too stubborn to call him. Feels like if I give into needing someone I will fall. Is that kind of what you mean?
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I think so. I mean, I'm lucky enough that I don't generally have real crises (mostly because I worry so much about what other people think that I keep tight control on my emotions, etc.), but there's a definite sense of giving in that I want to avoid. For me I think it's not so much stubbornness as it that I have some weird inability to gauge my own behavior and how inconvenient or unacceptable it is. So I try to always err on the side of not being an imposition and not acting "crazy." But I really have no idea if it means I'm too closed off, or if I'm actually just being too much and don't realize it.
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Originally Posted by pbutton
I decided to give in, quit trying to push away, and let T deal with whatever neediness followed. It wasn't anywhere near the bottomless pit I was afraid that it would be.
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That's very brave of you, pbutton. How did you manage? Cause as I said, I feel like I can't really gauge, but I'm also convinced that T would get sick of me in 1.5 seconds if I let myself just give in to my desire to contact her.