I wonder if your T was just recognising that you thought she was angry, when that wasn't the way she felt. You were unable to talk about it at the time, so she didn't realise that she was coming across that way. It meant that she didn't have a chance to change it, or help you, because she didn't know. Maybe she did feel it wasn't fair, especially for you to struggle so much with something, without telling her about it because she couldn't help.

I did once decide I was being really judgmental of my T, when she didn't contact me when she said she would. I was so sure she'd proved me right, and that she didn't care about me and that's why she forgot. When she explained to me why she forgot, it was nothing to do with her lack of care...that was just the judgement I made about it, and it wasn't true. The person I hurt by making that judgement was myself, and my T wasn't angry that I'd thought that of her either.

I can imagine what your T said came accross in a way that was blunt or harsh, but I really think your T is just trying to help you see that what you decide about the way she feels, might not actually be the way she feels. The way she can help you with it, is when you tell her. So you really did do well, by telling her during this last session!