I have had male and female therapists... While the males were very knowledgeable and helpful as far as listening, I didnt make any progress because they started to remind me of him and there was transference... Women are harder to talk to for me, but theyve been able to give me advice without any transference happening and I did make a little bit of progress.
I have had 2 therapists at one time for this reason. I could talk to the woman about more deep issues like sexual abuse, and I could talk to the male about real life difficulties like depression, insomnia, anxiety, etc.Im so fragmented that it works for me. If you can have 2 and alternate, I think thats the best way, IMO.