Glad it was a little bit helpful- I am probably the Queen of Finding Ways to Feel Close to T!.. More because of my (sometimes seemingly) insatiable need for closeness than because of any particular creativity on my part. One of the ways I've found most productive has been to 'copy' the way T lives. Sounds kind of sad, but I mean- I know that T stays very busy, I know that she makes plans with friends, I know that she cares for herself and her appearance and treats herself to soothing experiences. I know that she tries to eat well and has a personal trainer. I know that she is really motivated and works hard at the course of study she's doing. I know that when she's ill she slows down the pace but doesn't just climb into bed for days. I guess all this depends on knowing quite a lot about T. But overall, it means that in many of my day to day activities and efforts, I feel close to T.