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Originally Posted by Improving
Yes, this is what I was thinking as I was replying. It sounds like there are two really important things here on top of her email policy and whether she replies-
1. The shame you feel at needing her, and how you can reduce this shame
2. The need for her to respond, and what this means- it is a need for closeness? acceptance? And if she is not willing to reply, how else can you meet this need?
I'm sorry you're hurting. I know how hard it is  |
Thanks. I think this boils down to a need to be heard. To my emotional, non rational self, a non response equals rejection and this has rings of childhood where my mother never really listened to me. Everything I said seemed to go out into a void. Even though T raises the email in the following session, her non response still feels devastatingly painful and I feel ashamed for sending it and still wanting a reply.