Hi.

i just wanted to get a couple of opinions on some of the things my Father says to me. I'm beyond sure he has NPD, but would never ever get him diagnosed.
These three occurrences happened within 20 mins of eachother..
and we had the rest of the family around at our house + in the room.
which is why he was being so cunning and crafty so that only i would pick up on his behavior.. {as intended}.
(he really seems to have extra fun when he can mess with me whilst there is other company in the room; without getting caught.)

M= Me D= DAD

1.)
Me: yeah my friend xxx ate a whole load of food {last thursday}
D: Well he's really quite a big guy.
M: not particularly, but he's very tall.
D: Nah, he's VEry muscular: really big shoulders.
then goes on to say;
D: yeah, well it's weird, because back in the day, xxx used to be the
skinny runt of the gang.
{pause}

2.) My Dads been uncomfortable with his short hair since it's been cut... {4-5days} He keeps mentioning it.. and then comforting himself; 'well thats's what it was meant to be / well thats all good, it's a good thing' e.t.c
he's also been mentioning the length of my hair Alot.

D: My hairs so short! {i didn't respond}
D: wow your hairs really long, swear it must've grown about an inch in the last month..
D: remember when you had your hair cropped really short just after your 21st?
M: Yeh
D: It looked really good then... {pause}

3.)
My dads talking for everyone as usual.. and is talking about a restaurant him and his girlfriend went to.
I start drumming a tune on my lap.
straight away he then says this.
D: Yeah,,, and they had Really good music... {pause}
goes into length about why They were really good.
I continue playing regardless.
so then he starts drumming on the table really loudly over the top of me,
a) to show he's better, and b) to stop me doing it.



i know they could easily ^ be overlooked, but its all very intentional.
what i have drawn from them.

1.) [I]i used to be very muscular, big shoulders... xxx used to be skinny..
i should add here that my Dad makes sure there is never much food in the house, he doesn't want me being big and strong-(ger) than him.

2.) just trying to make me feel bad about my hair now.. and him good about his now.

3.)trying to discourage me playing music. (i'm a musician FFS)
as he sees playing music as a really desirable trait, one that he thinks
looks really good to other people. i.e. he only would want it for the
aesthetics of; Him looking good playing music.
and when i wouldn't stop.. ;he had failed to put me down.
he simply played over the top in a primitive power display.


but yeh... that was 20 mins in company.
he gets oh, so much worse when there are no onlookers.
he barely takes a break to breathe.

so is this definatley NPD were talking about???
i'm pretty damn sure it is.... but on the malignant side, possibly?
i KNOW i am not making mountains out of molehills.
is NPD the most fitting diagnosis.?

thanks for Reading.
Circlesx