I keep going back to this......summer, there is a lot of mistakes I have made as a parent. Since you mentioned I should change my expectations and apologize....please tell me.....your 13 yr old daughter sneaks out while you sleep and has strangers she met on facebook picking her up, what would be your level of love and understanding? When does the fear of making sure she is safe become more important? Should her meeting strangers become an expectation that I support my 13 yr old doing (I apologize...I know this is sarcastic, but your comment about me not being the parent she may have needed was like a knife going right through me). I have walked away from my friends because I saw too many people judging her based on her behavior, I came here to find out how to support her more, to see what she needs, and saw "healthy parenting" and though it might be a place for me to just express my thoughts to people who may know through their own struggles not to prejudge. So you ignored my first line about how distressed I was, ignored where I wrote I did not think she could always control herself and chose to judge me and give me a good talking too.....without ever thinking maybe there was more or even reading it all, I don't think you would feel good if someone judged you that harshly when you were trying your hardest. Thank you