Hmm, that's hard. Since you said that you're just buying time until you can leave, what would it take for you to be ready to go?

Since your husband isn't here and isn't asking for help changing and from what you wrote he probably wouldn't respond to anything we might do to try to change him (you can't change someone else anyway, or someone who doesn't want to change), all that there really is left is to concentrate on you, and what you can do.

What are you doing to get ready to make the changes you want to make in your life, such as leaving him if that is what you want to do?

Do you have a safety/emergency plan in case his temper gets worse and it isn't safe to be around him? It's important to know what you would do, so that you don't have to figure it out on the fly should things come to that.

What are you doing to set boundaries and protect your self-esteem, etc. from being further damaged?

What can you do to protect your children?

Sorry, all I have is more questions when I'm sure you would rather have answers. It's just one of those things nobody can figure out for you.

Rap