Bow, as you are taking care of yourself, keeping yourself safe, please remember this very important piece of information.

As you change for the positive, the people around you that continue unhealthy or toxic behavior (for instance your estranged wife) will resist the change and react badly (pick fights, try to manipulate, hurt, bring you back to the "old ways", use verbally abuse language, act passive aggressive, etc.).

They will do everything they possible can to pull you back into the cycle or the game.

You are too important / too valuable / to allow this to happen.

The best thing to do is ignore them. But if that is not possible, and if you are able, just tell them "i really don't have time for this". period.

Wish them the best with all of your heart (mean it) and move on. And focus on you only. Stick to you and your progress.

(The others have their own process, demons and progress to address. Once that happens, you will see how you feel about the rest of it)

Take care.