With all due respect, in this particular instance I think your old T showed an error of judgment if she believed you had a clinical depression and still didn't refer you to a medical doctor or even mention medication to you. Clinical depression is a medical condition. Therapists are (usually) not medical professionals but they are trained in spotting signs of this kind of medical condition, and they should definitely refer somebody displaying those signs to a MD or psychiatrist to discuss medication.

Medication doesn't help everybody, and of course it doesn't help with things like trauma or grief. But for many people it does much more than just "take the edge off things"; clinical depression is a disease that (among other things) distorts your perceptions because your brain chemistry is off. For many people it can really help in their therapy work if they don't have to fight against their brains' attempts to tell them things that aren't true just because their perceptions aren't working right.

I have no medical training. But I've done a lot of reading on this subject and discussed it with several MDs as well as a psychiatrist, and my understanding is that even though therapists may have different opinions about whether medication is helpful or not, people who are medical professionals are pretty much agreed that it is something that can help a lot of people. My opinion is that you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by discussing medication options with somebody who has the relevant training for it, which is to say, a MD or pdoc.