I guess my point, CE, is that although you stopped the hate mail campaign, you still do not seem to see it's importance and have no acceptance of responsibility for the repercussions of it. I'm not saying you should beat yourself up for it, but OWN it. You did what you did, your T reacted the way she did. It happened. You may not have foreseen the repercussions at the time, but you can sure look at what happened and learn from it so you could foresee it in future interactions.

And I'm sure that you must have learned healthier ways of dealing with anger in the last two years. Maybe I should not have said anything, but I tend to get triggered when people are dismissive of their own part in conflicts and think even though they have behaved badly, all of the responsibility is on the other person. [I'm not passing judgment on your behavior; it was you who said it was a hate mail campaign and a pretty constant barrage against your therapist. I was just taking you at your word.] It was really none of my business and I shouldn't have jumped in. Sorry.