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Thanks for all replies.
Lots of shoulds and such there.

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The first thing I'm going to do is apologize. I'm sorry if you heard me should on you. I certainly did not intend such a thing.

I ask you to reconsider.

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Second, the stress factor may make me worse off than I was before, even to the point of needing to sell the house and move, due to their being inside.

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For the sake of completing the thought expressed here, I wonder how you could sell the house without facing greater challenges than this one, the home visit?

It will be stressful. I know something of dealing with the authorities. Of the double bind of having to try hard to prove to them you need their help to cope, when coping is all that you do from dawn until dusk. You almost need to demonstrate that you aren't disabled (by effort expended), to succeed at showing them that you are.

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It's an impossible scenario... unless I can have floating appts with the doctors, and schedule them only one a day or so many hours apart that I'm useless anyway.

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I feel reasonably certain that your doctors would remember that you arrive at the mercy of your driver. They would work around your unavoidable dependence on a third party.

I wish there was a way I could help reduce your stress to manageable levels. I wish there was a way to help find workable solutions to your challenges. And, I hope my words are part of a solution, and not yet another challenge for you.

With kind regard,
Lar