I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'll just go ahead.

I'm 22 (female) and I've never had a relationship, and my self-esteem suffers greatly because of it. I used to think I was ugly and just not worthy of being loved because everyone around me had a partner and all I ever had were unrequited crushes. I still often feel that way, especially because of my looks (I'm a bit overweight and certainly no beauty queen), but this is often replaced by a somewhat angry feeling of "Why do others have love and I don't? I deserve this, too!" Most of the time I just feel desperate and lonely. I'm also diagnosed with depression and this is certainly one of the big factors contributing to it.

I guess the main reasons for the problem are that I'm a lesbian and most people I've had feelings for were straight women, so there was never a chance for a relationship; as well as the fact that I'm very very shy (I might have social anxiety), and yeah, maybe it matters as well that I'm not that attractive, like I've said.

Yesterday I read a Wikipedia article on "Incels" (involuntary celibacy) and it just made me further depressed. Among other things it spoke of the pressure of society on people in their 20s/30s to have sexual experience and that serious psychological consequences can arise if that isn't the case for someone (other people looking down on me for whatever resason is one of my biggest fears). The other part of it that especially got me down was the mention of how valuable and important sexual experience and "learning" is for a person's personal development, and how "destructive" it can be if one doesn't have that.
All in all, the article just made me feel like I'm lacking something crucial and that others might not accept me like this.

So I guess my questions are... Do you think it's weird/odd that I've never had a relationship and barely any sexual experience at my age? (I've made out with a few people over the years and almost had sex once) And do you think it's really a crucial problem for my personality that I'm lacking this?