Hi,

To me it seems like my mother is in this kind of Zombie state and that this is how she has been since my dad's suicide. She was the one to find my dad's body in the house. Often it seems to me like she is brain-dead in that she doesn't respond to me and basically does nothing other than sit on the couch blankly starring at the TV.

What I don't understand is what her issue is. Sure she was married to my dad for over 30 years, but he was an awful husband and an even worse father, so I am not sure what it is she is mourning the loss of? He used to beat my mother constantly, restricted her freedom, and was totally abusive to both of us. In fact the last thing he did do to my mother was beat her until my mother threatened to call the police. So what exactly it is that upsets her I don't know? Yet she needs photos of him all over the house and miniature ceremonies and other weird things. When she is responsive she herself will talk about how horrible of a husband he was and how bad of a father, but, in the long-run, it changes nothing.

What I am saying is that he was a terrible husband and father and it's been a few years since he died but she is still in this Zombie-like, brain-dead trance most of the time over it. Will she ever be able to function and live again?

It seems like both my parents died that day…