I know when I was growing up, I was very quiet. I would think of what I wanted to say, but it was always too late by the time I figured out what it was I wanted to say or I didn't want to interrupt those who were already talking.

It wasn't until I was 54 that I was able to sit in a book club or a Bible study & actually offer my thoughts & realize that they were just as valuable as everyone's elses comments. For some reason, my brain started thinking quicker also.....it felt good to be part of a conversation rather than sitting there listening to it.

I do have a comment on sarcasm.....I DON"T LIKE IT!!!!. When I first got married, my husband thought sarcasm was humor, but all he was doing was putting me down & calling it humor. I was in college & getting better grades than he was even though he bragged about his high IQ. I finally told him that if he didn't stop the sarcasm because he wasn't being funny & he was the only one laughing at himself....I would be glad to leave him. It actually had become habit.....& I had to comment every time he pulled his sarcasm comments because he didn't even realize that was what he was doing. No one including myself liked his sarcasm....as I said, it's just a way of putting people down in what the person thinks is humor. It's definitely NOT a nice to use in conversation, & it would definitely be best to keep your sarcasm to yourself.....(my personal opinion) I don't get my feelings hurt.....so that wasn't what was happening.....I just didn't like having a person putting me down when he was the one that had issues that he was putting others down about.