I have been reading some posts about the "other" client and wanted to post my recent (and not so recent) experience with ONE (or more) of T's other clients.

A couple of years ago, my T appointment was scheduled later in the week than now. I liked it then, the time worked for my schedule and oddly, I enjoyed seeing T when my work week was almost over. It gave me a chance to get grounded and re-group before the next week.

A few months in my therapy, T's assistant called and requested I change my appointment (day AND time) to accomodate a practicum student.

I wanted to be compliant client so, I did.

BUT.

I hated it.

I didn't even realize I hated it until one of my several ruptures with T.

In anger I told T, I didn't feel I had a choice, the message being sent (certainly, being received) was the "other" client's schedule was more important than mine. I was less important. I asked for my old time back when it came available again. ( I wanted to regain some power in the situation) To my knowledge, it hasn't happened because I have never been offered it back.

SO.

Yesterday, T's assistant calls me and leaves a message. She wants me to move again to accomodate a student. WTH? Really?

I am triggered by her call .... and mad at my T. Does he not pay attention to anything I say?

I wrote him an angry note but didn't send it. Basically, it said I know I am triggered again.

I wrote, "I pay you, YOU figure it out! "

Am I being unreasonable?