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Originally Posted by Leed
Unfortunately I had a similar situation many years ago, except it wasn't a long distance relationship. We lived in the same neighborhood, and we worked in the same building, just doors from each other.  I saw him VERY often, as he and his wife and my then husband and I were "close friends" and we often went out together. That's how things got started. 
When I decided it HAD to stop, of course I told him, and I avoided him like the plague. As far as going out as couples, I just told my husband that I thought we were seeing too much of them and I was getting "bored' with them --- white lie, I know. I threw myself into my family, started some hobbies that I hadn't taken part in in many years, and just kept as busy as I could. It really helped. Time is a good healer! It wasn't long before I realized that what I THOUGHT was "love" really wasn't. It was really unhappiness at home -- and he was just "there." So I had some work to do at home.
I wish you the very best. Please take care of you -- perhaps counseling will help? Can't hurt. I went and it helped. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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Thanks Lee. I think you are right. What I am feeling towards for him is not real love. Also I think he actually does not love me. Sometimes I feel that he is keeping me closer, in the view that it is better to keep your enemies closer, because I actually have so much of information about him and his girlfriend (including photos, etc.). I thought of seeing a counselor. I may be bit difficult to justify that to my husband as to why I need to take counseling.
I have not had communication in secret capacity with my brother-in-law close to a week. Feeling bit better, but sometimes feeling a really deep seated sadness within me, wanting so bad to talk to him.