Thanks Pat, I think I have went so long with pple making decisions for me (just recently started doing it after working on this in therapy) that I still have a hard time doing it. I know that sounds stupid, but for the longest I have aways had rescuers and know that I won't let anyone rescue me so I can "clean" up my own mistakes its scary sometimes to make a decision. This isn't just a "o I payed a bill late" thing. One thing I know is that I wouldn't just go if my husband didn't want to go. I would find something else to do just because it's not high on my list of priorities.

Thanks Maven I am going to check that out.