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Originally Posted by Mindinpieces
Sorry I took this down wrong line, so to speak. However my must think of your own emotional needs a little even if you think you’re ok with something the reason you are nervous is something else might be influencing you. Your mind just might not be made up yet otherwise you wouldn’t doubt yourself. You can not only make this a “relationship” if you go by what would make him happy or not upset him. Also do you really need to be in a “relationship” with him? What about if you ask him (if he was with a person what would that "relationship" be like?) or mean to him. You may be surprised it sounds like your friendship with him or it may help you see it’s best to just let things happen in time. Also do you really need to change what you have with him will this not eventually lead to you getting closer. Are you thinking too much may be, there is nothing wrong with that but you can only see how things play out in time. I am not saying by not calling it a “relationship” change things instantly to how you would like them to go but do you really need to label you and him in a relationship box. Maybe in time you will kiss or get to talk and understand how your feelings are changing and how you see one another. I think you just need to overcome that your feelings matter or may be it just confronting him. However you said he really does care about you then I am sure when you tell him how you feel about him touching you he would understand this and respect you and your feelings by stopping this. I am sure you probably know all things and I am glad you are the type of person who knows themselves just trust in your feelings and that if he really cares for you then there shouldn’t be too much problems. But communication and checking your still on same level is best. It is easy to assume things isn’t it and speculate that this is where things are going so just try to keep talking and understand your feelings between one another even on emotional level. Again I am sorry if I am no help or not understandable in my reasoning.
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I'm afraid it's not so much your reasoning as your English i'm having problems interpreting. I think I understood the jist of what you were getting at though.. I know I need to consider myself and that a label is really only that.. a label.. it doesn't change the product but it would be nice.. to be able to proudly say "yeah, he's mine" and smile when people ask (because people do ask) instead of blushing softly and saying we're just friends. We do need to communicate on things like this better for sure.. but.. its an embarrassing topic
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