My T is very sensative to that. She says that if she pushes and over rides my wishes and desires, then its keeping me in the same pattern of the past where my desires don't matter and I let authority figures control me and abuse me. I think there is a fine line. Sometimes she will bring something up several times. After several times of me saying no, she will back off and verbally say.. It feels to me like this is something you aren't wanting to do yet, instead of pushing it, lets work on just chatting about the reasons why and what your underlying feelings about it are. I feel so much more self confident when it happens b/c I realize she respects my wishes. Not sure if this relates to you at all, but hope it helps.

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