sorry to say dduck, us women are funny creatures in the sex department....my ex and I were on that once a month path (before I was diagnosed with BPII) so if I felt like I wasnt getting enough attention, he wasnt helping enough around the house, etc. my sex drive just wasnt there....I dont know...women are alot different about sex than men are...nothing is wrong with that...its just the whole left brain/right brain thing....since I have gotten treatment and gotten things in my world a little more figured out as to who I am, my sex life is alot better. We have been together almost 4 years, and although its not as hot and heavy as it started out (what relationship is after time?) it is still good and more frequent than my past....but you also have to remember too....quality, not quanity.....maybe you need to catch her on a talkative day and just sit down and talk about it...its something that is important, and needs to be discussed.