When I see my loved ones or friends that may be this or that I first think about my problems and if I would want them confronting me on my behavior and problems.

The bottom line is that no one can change me but me and no one can change other people but those other people when and if they want to change for themselves.

My advice leave it alone. his behavior and health physical and mental is up to him to take care of and change should he want to.

If you are at a point where you cannot accept him for how and who he is then you know where the door is.

Friends and lovers accept each other unconditionally. Not because they do and say what we want them to do and say.