I had neither a connection nor an attachment to my therapists. It was a business relationship. I went there for info. Later I learned to connect to others and then came healthy attachment. Not having these things with my therapists did not impede my progress, though. With my therapists I worked on boundaries, meeting my needs, the first few layers of self worth, inner child, just making sense of everything, etc. and then later I went on to work on many other things. The therapists helped me with my foundation of mental health. (My MSW degree and websites like this helped me to continue on by myself).

Does this make sense - you write that you don't like being comforted by your friends. You also write that you want to tell someone about your current distress so you want to tell your first T who you seem to be less connected to? This makes sense to me. If you told this to the second T she would more likely try to comfort you?