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Old Apr 16, 2012, 01:15 PM
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Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
I just wanted to tell someone who would not care or try to get involved.
Fine, but this sounds like a holdover from a parent who seemed to care too much or tried/got involved too much and smothered you? So you drop the actual communication and the "I just wanted to tell someone who. . ." and say, gee, I picked this person to tell, because I feel they do not care or try to get involved, why did I do that? and discuss that with that person.

You cannot get to connection, if you want to get to connection, if you block/perceive people as being caring/uncaring and too involved/not involved instead of looking at how you block/perceive in the first place.

I imagine you don't know if you want to get to connection, it does not sound very comfortable/good to you at the moment but look at the, "I just wanted to tell someone who would not care or try to get involved" statement and you see a problem. How can someone else help you understand if they don't care and/or cannot get involved in the educational process? Why can you not just read a book for your education? Because, people aren't like books (hated when my T would point that out, too often).
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