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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon
If he sees himself as trans the best thing you can do for her is to help her seek a lgbt group for support and a therapist who specializes in dealing with lgbt teens/adults. She needs to be empowered as her gender. If she feels genderqueer make sure you use pronouns they are comfortable with. Also understand that if she feels like a female she deserves to be treated as one regardless of what she currently looks like.
The best thing is to lay off being physical. Your friend needs to feel confident as their gender and be around people who will support their growth. You can be apart of that growth. Just dont expect him to identify as a male if she believes she is in the wrong body.
If you go to a uni or community college there is usually some kind of gay-straight alliance.
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He doesn't identify that way.. he just wishes he had been born female for a variety of reasons he's researched.. things I won't go into because with the overwhelming weight of it I'm convinced more than half of men who knew it all would depress them-self nearly as badly as he is. There's a gay-strait alliance at school but he considers himself so much a freak just for wishing he were a girl.. he'd never join; he's much too shy to do anything with a community really.. and try as i might to convince him that it's not freakish and not Terribly abnormal he's gotten to this point where he really only believes himself and what he researches no matter what someone tells him. He would never undergo surgery; finds it appalling to even consider, won't take any type of pill.. i offered to go out of my way and purchase that nono thing for him just so he wouldn't have to deal with the facial/body hair that bothers him so much...
And I'm not the one doing the physical things- that's all him.
On Rare occasions he prefers the use of feminine pronouns.. and I appease him when he does..
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