Thank you for the responses. Just as a reply to doggiedo...I was in counseling and asked my wife to come with me a few times so we could talk to someone to help improve our relationship. We went but before we even got to the 1st appointment she told me "we are not going to talk about our sex life". Also, she is 31 years old so menapause isn't the issue (don't know what I will do then) and we have no children so no recent births. I love her and want to be with her...but I feel like I am unwanted and it hurts me pretty bad to feel this way.