Bunny, I'm putting all of your info and suggestions in a folder for Max and his mother. Remember, I'm not supposed to know about this. She is the best mother I know of and I know my son is commited to giving his boys the best life he can, so unless they are in denial, which I doubt, they're on top of his needs.

BUT... if I keep what you've said in mind and work it when he's with me, they'll see it and know that he's safe with me.

Yes! You bet "Volume" is something to watch! He's always been sensitive to anything loud.