Hi wounded1,

I'm sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, it happens to a lot of people, but the bright side of that is that you're not alone.

I think people can change, if they want to. I also think people rarely change. I won't tell you what decision I'd make in your shoes, because I'm not you, but I will tell you that, even if your husband does change, it doesn't obligate you to take him back. Sometimes you just want to start new, not put yourself through the risk of trust again. It's hard to regain trust that's been broken, and while you can do it, you may not want to. Don't feel guilty; you aren't doing anything wrong. You have to do what's right for you. I will say this, though: If you ever decide you want to give him another chance, take it slow. You've been hurt, and you deserve time to feel any step you take is the right one for you, and not be rushed into it.