BipolarNurse is correct in this assessment. Also, you'll ALWAYS cycle, even on the best medication at the best dosages. It's all about learning about the nature of the cycle and releasing the negative emotions from your body in healthy ways. Being around a person who is stunting your growth as an individual willing to learn and cope with the illness isn't good. At all.

Picking up some form of meditation and trying to practice daily can help give you that introspection you need to regulate the mood in a more healthier way.

Giving your husband an ultimatum for his behavior would also help. If he is so unwilling to help you and likes to put complete blame on you because you have an illness, instead of learn from you, then he isn't worth keeping around. Simply that. We all have problems and we'll always be working on them because we're human and we're creatures of faults and screwups. It's what you do with it and how you handle it that shows if you willing to take that extra step to work on it. Which you have shown. So he should do the same.