Loving someone doesn't make abuse ok. EVER
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Think about this tho:
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When you decide to stay DESPITE his behaviour, KNOWING he won't change: You basically relinquish any 'right' you had to call him out on his behaviour. Sure you can complain and vent to friends, BUT: You have to accept him as is, and make the best of your marriage, it was your informed decision afterall, and you gave your husband the greenlight to go ahead and treat you like a joke. Some things are definite deal-breakers, the rest are flaws you're willing to overlook...
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It's kinda like the voting rule, 'you can't complain about the ruling party if you didn't cast your ballot.'
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ps. If that was my husband, he'd have ZERO recording devices before the 1st video was complete.