Hi tamir34,

Welcome to PC, you have a heavy hearted first post my friend. I am sorry that your heart is in such turmoil right now.

Well, from what you are discribing, it sounds to me like your girlfriend has some comitment issues. This is not your fault you know. These people can be heart breakers because they are simply just not ready for any real commitment to anyone really. This involves in her history somehow, how she grew up etc. This is something she has to learn about herself, not something you can fix. Oh, please don't let this close your heart to finding another woman that may be more ready to truely commit to you. You sound like a really nice caring honest guy and you can't help it if you fell for someone who is not truely ready or needs to figure herself out more.

It is never wise to truely push this, because it can lead to further pain down the road.
This need for her to tease and then push away is a sign of some deep personal struggles she needs to get to the bottom of. And it bothering her that you provide so much, well, it sounds like she perfers to have more power, her ego seems to need that which is also in the way she dated before you. That ego was messaged a little when you left and she woed you back. Now she has you and no big deal anymore.
There a problem, it is hers and as I said, you can't fix this no matter HOW nice you are or even HOW GOOD a lover you are.

Men tend to want to see the black and white of things, well it is there if you look.
And you should remember the signs because you want to avoid this down the road in other potential mates. Oh, I know you were friends and all that but that changed and she began thinking about her ego again and whatever it is that she seems to need to take care of that somehow. Yes, she cares enough not to hurt you (cheat) but she does have her sights on another conquest. For some people, this is what they thrive on.
I am not a therapist but from what I have read here, this is my impression of what is taking place.

I hope you do not take this out on yourself in any way. I can't blame you for being a bit broken hearted and you do deserve to grieve. Just so you know, I dated a guy for several years and I was young and he was like that too. We broke up and I met someone else and guess what, he tried to come back for he ego again. It was too late the other man was better and it was clear he wasn't the same way. We have to be careful sometimes and yes sometimes we do get hurt learning.

((((Hugs))))
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