at this point does the bad outweigh the good? are you really,truly benefitting or is it just so familiar that you stay in it because change would be too painful? we ask all this for a reason-our ex-counselor of over 7 years was a LOT like yours(wont go into it now) and eventually she ended up dropping us out of nowhere. but after almost 7 months of being away from her we are starting to see that we stayed for many of the reasons we asked you-she knew us,it was familiar even though she was far more abusive than helpful,change terrified us(still does).although you are very wise in taking the initiative in seeking another counselors help,which we never thought to do. we arent saying leaving would be easy nor are we even suggesting it but its just something we wanted to share with you♥