I read your post quite a few times because I couldn't believe what I was reading, I'm appalled at his behavior. I realize I don't know all the elements of your marriage, but it seems like your husband has quite a bit of work to do on himself.

I thought about what I would do if this was happening to me and I feel this would be a major call to action for me. If I were you, I would get your husband's attention, tell him this needs to stop now, and let him know it's a deal breaker if it doesn't stop. I would also let him know that if he wants your respect, he needs to respect you and take your marriage seriously.

I hope everything works out for you!