This sounds like my moms friend/neighbor... Despite all that's happened to her she doesn't understand the idea of her getting a job. I don't really know what to offer you, but maybe talk your mom into getting government support (EI, welfare, if she is eligible then disability). Maybe put in her head that she should try and get disability and thus needs a councilor first, as a way to trick her into getting some of her issues resolved. But that's a bit far fetched. Honestly, it sounds like she isn't about to change because she's too stuck inside herself so I don't really know what else to do. :/

(((hug))) Just know that if it gets unbearable, there is always a way out (not suicide).

Also, cheers to a fellow Canadian!

And I second George's comment: your post is very well put together!