I agree with your perspective on the soap opera. It would make my life and recovery a lot easier if the two of them would just vanish somewhere. I told my wife last night, halfheartedly because I knew she would never allow it, that I wanted to use her phone for just one text message to him. "Hi _____, This is _____. Stop contacting my wife. I don't give a **** what you think about me, but leave my wife out of your problems. If you want to spy on _____, find someone else to do your dirty work for you. You have only yourself to blame for not keeping her happy." As far as the issue of her being on a pedestal, I haven't mentioned it much here but it's one of the primary issues I'm trying to get sorted out in my head. That's probably the biggest single reason I want to find a more effective T is to get past my feelings for her so I can move on to where I'm supposed to be.

Will try the google search as you suggest. Thank you.