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Originally Posted by Kacey2
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And he was like, "KC in dbt therapy clients can not fail. You did nothing wrong. I take full responsibility, I have failed you. My therapy has failed you." blah blah blah blah. He said so many things it is hard to process it all out here but I am going to try to at least get some of it out. This may be choppy and it will not be complete. He said in the beginning he mislead me by saying that this is a relationship that can last forever and that we would always be connected in some way until we die. He said that yes we are here til were not here and we don't know when that will be. OMG I AM SO SICK OF HEARING THERAPY ******** MUMBO JUMBO! Isn't that a complete cluster f of a line?
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Yeah, pretty much of a cluster f. of a statement right there.
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Originally Posted by Kacey2
He said that he isn't sure that we would make it through this and he takes full responsibility if that happens but he wants to do better at being my therapist and work with me to build a life worth living with other support besides him. He said he was still going to support me but he wanted me to have other meaningful relationships in my life and by being so connected to him it is hindering me from doing that.
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Yeah, yeah, it was his fault. Do you think you're relationship with him *is* hindering your ability to having other relationships? I mean (see below) my wonky meter is off the scale here, but could this be true?
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Originally Posted by Kacey2
I told him that I was not going to videotape and that he had many other clients to chose from to do his consultation with the dbt coach. Since he told me it was all about him and his behaviors and interactions that were being critiqued. He said that he wanted it to be me because there is only one me and I am the relationship that he needs try harder at. I said that doesn't make sense, don't you want to try your best with all of your clients? He said that he feels he does do his best with his other clients and that he feels he is not doing his best with me. OUCH.
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This may be therapy mumbo jumbo, or it may be an honest answer, but I just do not get this at all. If you don't want to be videotaped, then I think you have the right not to be. It's not your fault, or responsibility that he "screwed up".
Look, I was a big advocate of you going back and trying to slog it out with this guy. I think if it were just the two of you then you could. What really really worries me here is that there is clearly, a second, third, and perhaps even a fouth party involved here who is actually pulling the strings.
Okay, if you (and I'm not saying that you are) really too entrenched in this relationship to seek out other ones, then yes that could be a problem, but it's just the damn accreditation thing.
I think all therapies should be allowed to run their natural course with the outcome of each on their own timeline. It's like an artificial constrant is put on what is happening between the two of you.
I don't know kacey, but this just isn't sitting right with me. You are one smart cookie to seek the advice of another therapist and perhaps continue treatment with them.
As you said, you are not just some vehicle through which this group gets their accreditation, you are kacey - a human being.
I am so sorry that you got caught up in the middle of this. As much as possible I hurt for you.
Please do take good care of yourself in all this. I'm sending peace your way.