(((Mr. Venomous)))

Ok, at first I had pictured her just getting married young and simply being a house wife. So she has worked before and went to college as well.

It sounds to me like she is depressed Venomous. She is probably experiencing some mid life crisis as well here. Your father was abusive and I am sure that took a toll on her and she has some victim mentality going on here as well. I am wondering if she is experiencing some ptsd as well. It seems like she is being avoidant here. Maybe a part of her does want to restructure her life but she is just too lost to truely follow through with that.

I think that the best thing for her right now is to get some therapy to be honest. Yes, I know she is resistant but if you CAN convince her and help her find a therapist, that really should come first. I don't think you should expect her to just jump in and take over for herself, she is clearly lost and depressed. Sometimes when ptsd is setting in, there can be a period of depression like this. I know about this because that is what happened to me and I had no idea I was sinking so bad.

Now that I think about it, her zoning you out and just going through the cycle your talking about, she is definitely very lost and I wouldn't be surprised if she is experiencing PTSD as I mentioned. There is nothing you can do to fix this other than get her to a therapist. And I am sorry that she is not giving you attention, but it really sounds to me like she is just self absorbed with her history of being abused and your father's suicide. That is a lot for someone to experience and it does takes its toll, she probably was never happy and safe.

If she is breaking down, you have to find it within yourself to be supportive because she is truely lost. She has to pick through her whole life to finally be able to find her way most likely.

Open Eyes